Church: Do you Attend or Belong?

‭ “Just as our bodies have many parts and each part has a special function, so it is with Christ’s body. We are many parts of one body, and we all belong to each other.
Romans 12:4-5

The Church was not a human idea. It was conceived in the heart of God.

When people ask me what church I go to, I make a point of replying that I belong to Jordan Victory Church. That might sound a bit pernickety, but there’s a vast difference between attending and belonging. Let me explain.
Church ‘goers’ are danger of developing a consumerism approach to the church. I often hear statements such as “I left my last church because I just wasn’t being fed,” “My needs were not being met,” “I didn’t like the way things were being run.”
Though they may well have a valid point, I wonder did it ever occur to the disgruntled churchgoer to stay, put down roots, roll up their sleeves and be part of the solution?
We don’t go to church, we are the church.
God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure.” Ephesians 1:5
When I became a Christian, I became a part of the Body of Christ. I was born again as a new creation and legally adopted by God into His family. My earthly family name was granted to me automatically when I was born; no one can ever take that away from me. It’s mine by right. Similarly, when I was born again, I was given the ‘family name,’ Christian. I am part of the family of God.
We are designed to be connected; to belong. We belong to each other. This means: I share ownership, I have a legitimate place, I share responsibility, I have a role, I share in the corporate vision and common purpose we have as a family, I can let my guard down, I can be vulnerable. I am accepted, valued and significant.

The Ones Who Disconnect.
Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near”
Hebrews 10:24-25   Also see 1 Corinthians 12:12
If I have disconnected myself from my church family, then meeting other Christians for coffee and ‘fellowship’, listening to podcasts of my favourite preacher or playing worship music in my house all day does not show that I’m still a passionate follower of Jesus. Sadly, all it shows is that I’ve become a lonely, less effective one. We can’t have a proper relationship with Jesus when we’re out of relationship with His beloved Bride, the Church. Disconnecting myself from community will be far more detrimental to my own spiritual wellbeing than connecting myself to a flawed community.
The Bible has no teaching on solo Christianity. God has gifted each member of His the body to serve one another; therefore, I don’t think I’m sticking my neck out by saying that it is impossible to do that alone. To live a Christian life alone runs counter to everything the Bible teaches us. Proverbs‬ ‭18:1 tells us that the person who “isolates himself seeks his own desire” and that he “breaks out against all sound judgment”. ‬ ‭

The New Testament is filled with descriptions of what the followers of Jesus did in the weeks following His resurrection. It gives us a model of how the experience of being part of the church, could and should be: They shared meals, they were hospitable, they prayed and worshipped together, they learned from their leaders, they didn’t hold too tightly onto possessions, but shared what they had with each other.
Were they perfect? Hardly! The New Testament is not a story of an idealised church where everything worked perfectly all the time. They were no different to you or me; and in many ways life was so much harder for them.

Will I get hurt in church? The short answer is, yes, probably! But we are not given the option to go it alone; we are commanded to love one another and the Holy Spirit gives us the tools we need to work through our interpersonal issues and do life together: see Galatians 5:22-23

The Church is part of God’s eternal plan
God’s purpose in all this was to use the church to display his wisdom in its rich variety to all the unseen rulers and authorities in the heavenly places. This was his eternal plan, which he carried out through Christ Jesus our Lord.” Ephesians 3:10-11

Jesus delights in His Church. His grace runs through our imperfect, but redeemed lives. The church is a community of imperfect people, made righteous and being perfected through Christ. Of course, community can be messy and painful; people sin. Even leaders sin.
Jesus started the church with imperfect people and today it is still filled with imperfect people, like you and me. It’s only because of God’s incredible grace and mercy that He chooses broken human beings like us, to showcase his grace in a world in need of redemption. Every single one of us is a work in progress; imperfect but made righteous in God’s sight.

There is one thing thing I would change about my own church: Me. But thankfully God is the one doing that work!

If you are a Christian and don’t belong to a local church body, I urge you to find one and put down roots there. If you have lost your sense of belonging, I would implore you to make every effort to reconnect to your church family. You belong!

Jill 💜

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I love getting together with friends and sharing with each other over a cup of coffee what God is doing in our lives, it boosts my faith and lifts my heart. That's the aim of this blog. There's a story behind it; It was inspired after a friend gave me a single mustard seed, saying ‘that’s all it takes Jill’. What my friend didn’t know was that the very same morning God had reminded me of a promise He'd made to me over 20 years before regarding writing. I took the mustard seed home, planted it and watched it grow from a tiny sapling to a large, flourishing shrub at our front door. Every time I look at it it reminds me that our God is always true to his promises. Jesus lives in and works through his people, every single day. It's good to share what he's doing! I love talking about Him and writing about Him.

11 thoughts on “Church: Do you Attend or Belong?

  1. Love this.

    I have had many people tell me they have left churches because of some problem they were having.

    Can’t say that is a bad thing in itself, there are many churches that aren’t right for everyone and not everyone fits everywhere.

    But, staying and trying to be part of the solution is excellent advice. Could be God sometimes places people in a church they don’t like so they can make it better.

    Anyway, great post and good for thought.

    PS. I popped over because I saw the post over at my friend Wally Fry’s blog. Good blog you have here, I’ll definately be back.

    God bless,


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    1. Thank you James, i appreciate your kind feedback. And yes, I agree with you that there are some times where someone needs to move on because they and their Church body just don’t fit. I think what I was addressing was more the habitual ‘Church hopping’ mentality, while never truly putting down roots anywhere. Jill 💜


      1. Hey Jill,

        I have known quite a few church hoppers over the years and, if they were honest, I think they would admit that most of the problems they think they have with church really start with them.

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